A Co-Dependent Gay Culture?

If homosexual couples who bring civil rights suits against those who refuse to serve in gay weddings or related ceremonies are not simply vengeful, then their expressions of feeling seem to me to indicate the existence of codependent enablers - that is:

Codependent enablers often lack in self-worth and define their worth through another's eyes, thoughts, or views of them. They need other people to validate them to feel okay about themselves and without this, they are unable to find their own worth or identity.

Gay couples who have been refused service by individuals such as florists, cake bakers, photographers, etc., say things like:

• We were hurt and saddened when we were denied service by Arlene’s Flowers after doing business with them for so many years...[link]
• Phillips...informed them that he wouldn't take their business because it violated his religious beliefs. "We were all very upset, but I was angry and I felt dehumanized and mortified," Mullins told the Associated Press. [link]
• "Something not easily described. It’s like a nagging shadow, a feeling that I am still different; less somehow. A Yes vote will help gay people let go of this shame. It will mean we can go about daily life knowing that the de facto position of those around us is not one of disapproval but one of support, kindness and respect...." [link]
• Rachel and Laurel submitted a long list of alleged physical, emotional and mental damages they claim to have experienced as a result of the Kleins’ unlawful conduct...Examples of symptoms included “acute loss of confidence,” “doubt,” “excessive sleep,” “felt mentally raped, dirty and shameful,” “high blood pressure,” “impaired digestion,” “loss of appetite,” “migraine headaches,” “pale and sick at home after work,” “resumption of smoking habit,” “shock,” “stunned,” “surprise,” “uncertainty,” “weight gain” and “worry.” [link]

It is yet early in the post-Obergefell world, and there will be more opportunity to study reactions of homosexuals to being denied services based on the religious beliefs of the offeror. With that said...

Perhaps it's the entire cult of the victim in our society that requires people who dislike what another says or does to act like a victim in some way. But I must ask - why does finding out some person does not like who you are or what actions you take cause one to feel less about oneself, absent some form of codependency or dependent personality disorder?